There is a lot of information out there about dissociation. However, there is not a lot regarding dissociation in children. The psychological definition of dissociation is the disconnection and lack of continuity between thoughts, memories, surroundings, actions, and identity. Some literature suggests that dissociative disorders do not occur until age 16, while others say it can begin in early childhood.
First of all, I do not think that dissociation is a “disorder.” I believe it is a gift. It is a coping skill that is acquired in childhood to help children survive horrific trauma. I have heard stories comparing children who were able to dissociate to others that could not, and the ones who could not did not survive the trauma.
Symptoms of dissociation in children are similar to those in adults. Amnesia is very common. Not being able to remember what they did that day or even remembering the trauma can be the result. There can also be rapid mood and behavior shifts. Instead of writing off your child as being a problem, keep record of these shifts so a professional can assess them. The child also may “zone out,” have nightmares, or even memories of the trauma. Each person is different, much like each traumatic experience is different.
Someday, when these children heal from their traumas, they too will be thankful for the gift of dissociation. It is sort of like a survival guide to trauma!